Disclaimer: This post was written after watching “Black Mirror” Season 3, Ep 1 (Netflix). I highly recommend you go watch this episode (don’t worry, it doesn’t require any background to understand what’s going on) to have a clearer understanding of this post. If you choose to read this without watching the show first, I promise I would’ve ruined it for you. It will not hold the same shock value.
Don’t worry this isn’t a review per say, it’s an afterthought. My mind was racing 15 min into the show and the name “Black Mirror” started to make a lot of sense. This episode is a reflection of the social media obsessed society we live in now. Granted, it’s a hyperbolic utopian take on the “American Dream” but nonetheless, incredibly accurate.
The main character is this frumpy White ginger woman named Lacie. Lacie is an exaggerated version of a classic social media obsessed millennial. She is infatuated with her “rank” (out of 5), and constantly checks to see if people “Swipe up” to give her 5 stars on her various posts. In contrast, Lacie gets upset when people “swipe down” awarding her anything less than 5. She starts the show at a 4.2 and very quickly dwindles down.
On another note, while this episode paints a very white perspective of the “American Dream”. The writers are spot on in their depiction of people of color in America. Every person of color in this episode is either disadvantaged or working a blue collar job. It’s like your skin color gives you a 2 point rank deduction from birth. You come out the womb a -2, knowing you now have to work twice as hard as your white counterparts to even reach an avg 3.5. Sad, but very real.
One of the first scenes had me shook. Lacie buys a happy face sugar cookie and a latte at a coffee shop. When she arrives to her table, she bites the cookie paying very close attention to how she bites it, and then wait for it, she spits out what she bit! She then strategically places what’s left of the cookie on the saucer of the mug containing the coffee and snaps a pic for her followers. I was shook. I do that. We (millenials) fucking do that. Why? Because everyone hates an ugly plate pic, so we take precaution in how the plate is arranged. Everything needs to look desirable. The food doesn’t even have to taste good!!! But the world needs to know what you’re eating because it looks good?? Process that.
After watching this scene, phrases like “Is it instaworthy? “Follower to Like ratio” “I only got 40 likes in the past hour” started flooding my mind. We use social media to chase popularity, notoriety, and most importantly, validation. The worst part is that it’s fleeting, only temporary gratification ensues when your pic hits 200 likes. You won’t care tomorrow and you definitely won’t care when your next pic doesn’t hit 200.
We post things WE like, tweets WE like, pics WE like, looking for fucking likes. Ironic no? Why do we rely on the validation of others to add value to things WE already value? Why isn’t our own personal validation enough?
What’s amusing is that I kept this blog a secret to avoid this exact feeling. Now that it’s public I can’t help to hope people read it, that people like it. Am I pathetic for that? Or am I product of this society of instant gratification? Your craft shouldn’t need the validation of others if YOU validate it.
What’s crazy is while we use social media to chase this validation, we often forget that it’s all a haux. Social media is faker than Khloe Kardashian’s ass.
Plot Twist: The girl you think is goals cause of the pics she post with her man is actually in a verbally abusive relationship.
The funniest part is that even though we know for a fact that people front for social media, we use that shit like it’s a credible citation. We take note of what people post on their social media, shit if it’s wild enough it gets screenshotted to discuss in a group chat, where we collectively swipe down. We judge, whether knowingly or unknowingly. We mentally swipe others up or down because of what they post.
The question is: Are we wrong? Are we wrong for living like this? Are our social media accounts accurate depictions of who we are or are they who we want the world to think we are? And even if we front for social media, is there anything wrong with that?
+vibes only, always.